recettes/Journal/Daily/2023-09-01.md

Hier soir Auxane m'a dit qu'elle avait un fetish de cuck queen / cuckqwean :

Conversation :

Pour faire suite à la discussion de l'autre jour je crois que je serais assez HM te voir baiser une autre meuf de manière virile devant moi En tout cas c'est un fantasme intéressant I's that weird ?

that's weirdy hot

I know right

qq part j'aime bien l'idée mais j'aurais l'impression de te tromper

Hm Oui je sais pas si ce serait doable en vrai so far

moi j'aimerais bien te voir baiser qqn ça l'est déjà arrivé de t'imaginer baiser une meuf en face de moi

Hm

true mais c'est fun de partager des fantasies

en fait si c'était possible j'aimerais bien que tu te voies quand je te baise que tu puisses regarder d'un pdv extérieur quand je te fais lamour Vous avez répondu à dans ma tête je baiserais une meuf fort devant toi, mais en t'embrassant et te parlant toi, sans faire gaffe à la meuf trop genre c'est notre jouet

Un peu weird du coup C'est oddly excitant si tu cherchais à me rendre jalouse justement

ooh

Somehow

hmm j'ai un peu du mal mais qq part t'imaginer frustrée nous regardant baiser c hot 🔥

C'est ça

genre tu te touches un peu mais tu aimerais tellement plus

Da

comment t'imagines le truc ?

Hm je sais pas trop tbh

Je crois que je suis en train d'ovuler juste

haha

it's ok though tu peux me dire tes fantasmes love

Bin voilà

c hot et c très cool parceque ça me donne l'impression d'être trusted

Fait que ct'un peu ça

Recherches sur Reddit :

https://reddit.com/r/sex/s/dqsFk1I5Gd

Not wierd at all, and surprisingly common. From what I’ve read, there are usually two most common reasons behind enjoying this kink:

1. If your partner is able to get another woman in bed, it means he has options and could have any woman he wants…and he’s choosing YOU, so you must be pretty great!
2. When you are in bed with him, along with seeing/hearing him enjoying himself, part of your mind is also concentrating on how YOU feel as well and so the experience of his pleasure is not quite as full on. By watching him, you are not involved and so all of your attention can be on watching him and fully seeing/hearing his enjoyment.

As long as you both enjoy this and no one is being hurt, just relax, go ahead and enjoy!

Peut être que avec ma peur de fuck up le sexe et de dehornifier auxane, je fais pas gaffe à moi, et donc je kiffe moins, et donc c'est moins hot pour auxane Ce serait intéressant de faire un truc où Auxane me regarde me masturber, sans forcément que je fasse gaffe à elle, juste je kiffe

My girlfriend loves when I fuck other women. She says she finds it hot because it reinforces her belief that I'm attractive, and other women see this too. And it makes her feel special because at the end of the day, she's the one I'm sharing my thoughts, feelings, vulnerabilities with and committed to.

Montrer que je suis désiré par d'autres meufs atteste de mon attractiveness

Et en plus je lui montre que je la choisis

C'est un peu ce que je pense avec le fait que si on est ensemble c'est qu'on le veut, mais en moins théorique

I believe the appeal is simply that you love seeing your partner enjoying themselves. Like an advanced form of enjoying watching them masturbate. He's lucky to have you, and I hope you two are able to keep your relationship strong. Bringing others into the bedroom toys with strong emotions, so be careful.

En effet me masturber devant elle est hot Elle pourrait me regarder regarder du porno aussi, as in c'est moi qui le choisis et elle regarde

Maybe le fait qu'elle n'ait jamais été trompée fait que elle a peur de me tromper mais serait rassurée de savoir que c possible dans l'autre sens aussi, pour moins culpabiliser

I never really put two and two together with it making them on their toes. A woman I was seeing would say this after we had sex and it really threw me off. I should've went along with it to have her thinking that other women wanted me. Instead, I just said that I wasn't interested in anyone but her and thinking on it, that really made he lose interest in me. Not the only reason. I'm not kink shaming at all but I'm all about monogamy and the thought of me or my girlfriend sleeping with other people just defeats the purpose of having a girlfriend. I realize that's not a popular opinion but I also don't want to be jealous.

Je m'en doutais mais maybe que le fait de dire que je ne veux personne d'autre qu'elle va à l'encontre du kink en effet, me rend moins attractive

https://reddit.com/r/sex/s/CyAZuwA5cq

Woman here, have experience with this sort of arrangement.

I don't have any issues with what she's described, apart from the bit where she describes you hurting her as being a source of excitement. That strikes me as fuel for emotionally destructive fire.

I would get extremely turned on watching one of my boyfriends with other women. Once, when we were both away on business trips, he messaged me to say this woman had been hitting on him at the conference, and he'd brought her back to the room. We dirty talked about it for a bit, and when we both got back home, he tied me up and told me about it, all of the details. We even had a girlfriend, and he would send me photos of what they got up to while I was out of town. SO HOT.

That said, I never felt hurt by it, ever. I didn't feel scared, or anxious, or anything negative about it. There's nothing unhealthy about it; to me, it was an exaltation of his sexual power in my eyes.

I would investigate with her what exactly she means about, "this will hurt her," because if it means what it sounds like, that's a recipe for resent, and chaos.

https://reddit.com/r/sex/s/A8s7TWOVxJ

I am a newly discovered cuckqueen

I, F20, am with my fiancé, M23 (getting married in 3 months - been together for 5 1/2 years), and just yesterday we were talking about the potential of a threesome. The conversation eventually led to us talking about us having an “open” relationship because, due to some issues I have, my sex drive is not nearly as high as his, which can leave him feeling dissatisfied and insecure.

Well, after talking about the potential of him having a sexual partner to help meet his needs, my mind started imagining things almost immediately.

(For context, I have always been submissive and he is extremely dominant - he has had other sexual partners in the past, but I have only ever had sex with him).

Since we were on the subject, I of course vocalized the thoughts, and we both determined it sounded like I wanted a cuckhold relationship of some sort (let’s just say, we got intimate during/after the conversation and it was very apparent I was turned on by the thought of it).

Just since yesterday, my mind has been almost hyper focused on it and I have been in a constant state of being turned on, which is not like me at all.

I just wanted to see if anyone had any similar experiences, what they did/what you suggest we do. We’re super open with communication and so we’ve already talked about the situation hypothetically, as well as rules we would set.

We’re trying to figure out where to start, and also trying to determine if we’re both comfortable with it (if it was going to be open in this sense, he’s okay with me having other partners as well). We’re having a hard time both coming up with people we would pick.

I suggested we start with a threesome and see where it goes from there.

I’m happy to reply/answer any questions as I know this isn’t thorough enough, thank you if you made it this far.

Ici c'est intéressant de sire que si le mec peut baiser d'autres meufs, alors la meuf aussi

Jsp comment je me sens de voir auxane faire l'amour avec un autre mec

une autre meuf c hot parce que j'ai l'impression que c'est que du sexe

mais un mec j'aurais peur qu'elle le préfère à moi, ou que elle tombe amoureuse

https://reddit.com/r/sex/s/3OWtN5XKX6

I think the main thing to decide is whether you're aroused because of the humiliation, or if you're aroused despite the humiliation. In other words, is the humiliation a key part of it, or is it incidental and you'd just as soon not include it?

If the focus is more on them enjoying something that you are not, that they are leaving you out and humiliating you, then generally that refers to "cuckquean." The emphasis tends to be more on the humiliation and denial.

If, however, it's less because of the humiliation and more about watching other women enjoy your man and feeling validated because he's still yours, that's more in the ballpark of "hot-husbanding," sort of the male equivalent of "hot-wife-ing."

In any case, you should look up these terms and see if any of them do it for you.

ici c en effet important de faire la différence entre cuckqueen et hot husbanding

je pense que ce que ce a quoi auxane pense c'est du hot husbanding

Analyse

est ce que Auxane a aussi la fantasy dans autre sens, elle qui fait l'amour a un autre mec, mais n'ose pas me le dire ?

how do I feel about that ? ça l'a déjà traversé l'esprit que auxane baise qqn dautre mais le feeling que j'ai tout de suite repressed, ou pour lequel je me sentais pas trop bien après (mais hot sur le moment) c'est que la personne etait mieux que moi et que auxane pouvait la préférer. Il baise mieux, plus fort, plus

me faire BG pour aller en public c aussi pour être désiré par d'autres meufs devant auxane

déjà il faudrait que je me masturbe en imaginant que je baise une autre meuf qu'Auxane pour voir how I feel about it

2023-10-04 : apres qq semaine, je sais que j'aime pas cette idée et que c'est pas hot pour moi

ou bien, assumer que j'aime bien mater des meufs dans la rue, je me sens toujours mal de le faire, déjà parceque j'ai peur d'être cramé, mais aussi par rapport à Auxane. ou encore, oser faire des commentaires sur des actrices dans des films, ou les cheveux d'une passante ? J'ai l'impression que si ça quitte le topic du sexe c'est juste vexant ? Maybe not

Il faut peut être que je travaille sur mon insecurity qu'elle me quitte

Est ce que je suis prêt si ça arrive ? Est ce que c'est possible de commit a une relation long terme et en même temps être prêt à être quitté ?

Mon intérêt pour ce sujet alors que à priori je trouve pas ca hyper hot c'est que je veux explorer notre sexualité, et que comme on a moins de sexe que ce que je voudrais, jai limpression quil faut que je saisisse any chance. Paradoxalement c'est dehornifiant d'etre dependant comme ca de son pdv, qui veut d'un mec qui depend de toi pour baiser ?

Une grosse piste à explorer c'est de me rendre un peu plus indépendant relative au sexe avec elle, mais comment ?

• en kiffant plus me masturber seul

Pk j'ai du mal à ne pas penser à elle

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